I’m going to go ahead and get right into the heart of today’s post. While I love fashion and finding the latest sales and trends for you all, I really started my blog to write about the important things on my mind that I think could benefit you.
Since I started my blog, I have gotten a bit of push back. My blog is now my baby and I have had so much fun with it thus far! I have goals for myself and am proud of where I’ve gotten already; however, there are some folks who don’t quite understand the blogging world. Instead of being kind and supportive, they choose to make fun of and put down people who may see things differently from them and have different views on life. They are the reason for this post.
I am using my blog as an example here and am hoping you all have something you can put in place of it and relate to! First off, I want to explain my intentions with JMR. I am hoping to provide an outlet for my thoughts that can benefit you all. Not only using my own thoughts, but I am striving to partner with brands and companies that I think have something all of you would like. I also want to join this e-commerce world that is a huge part of our global economy now and gives me the freedom to teach fitness classes and dance and not be tied to a desk from 9-5, 5 days out of the week. I am taking my blog seriously and am working to open all of the doors I see that come from it.
SO, now that you know my intentions with this blog, I want you to think of that one thing that you might get push back from–maybe it’s something that people make fun of and think is lame or “stupid”. It’s probably something you’re also really passionate about, put a lot of work into, and care a lot for.
Using my own experience, I have learned these people who give you push back and may put you down have one thing in common: lack of confidence. That’s not to say they are bad people at all, and 90% of the time I’m sure they don’t actually know they are putting you down. That’s because they are only focused on building themselves up, but in the wrong way. Maybe thinking back on it, you’ve been one of those people putting someone else down. I think it’s safe to say we’ve all been there at some point in life.
Regardless, confidence is always something I am striving to improve on, so here are 4 ways you can boost your confidence:
- Think about the intentions behind your actions. This one is important, because if you don’t understand why you’re doing something, you can’t expect others to either. In some cases, push back from others can come from a lack of understanding of what you’re doing, and you may just have to explain it to them. You can’t do this unless you know what your own intentions are, and make sure the intentions are good.
2. Respect yourself. Respect is a tricky subject, while at the same time it’s not. It’s tricky in regard to respecting yourself because it’s way easier said than done, and I recognize that. I wrote a post a few months ago about self love (you can find it here) and I think loving yourself is along the lines of respecting yourself. Once you respect yourself you can respect what you’re doing and it’s a lot easier to ignore those rude comments from others. Take pride in what you do and remind yourself it doesn’t matter what others think.
3. Find a different outlet for your insecurities. It’s really hard to be confident when you’re insecure. I’ve tried it and it doesn’t quite work that well! It’s totally fine to be insecure about things, we all have our insecurities, but it’s not okay to drag others down as a result. To be more confident, you have to find a way to let out those insecurities that will build everyone, including yourself, up. This outlet will look different for everyone depending on the insecurity, but take some time to determine what it is.
4. Lastly, learn about the things that make others different. If you don’t understand what someone is doing, ask them about it. Don’t just assume it’s “stupid” or “lame,” and don’t add a negative connotation to it. Maybe it’s not something you do, but that’s where you will gain more confidence–by respecting others when you learn about what they are doing. Plus it shows you care.
I hope you all can find something to relate to that makes this beneficial to you in some way! I think everyone always has room to boost their confidence. If I didn’t mention something that you find helpful, let me know! And if anyone knocks you down, get back up and keep trekking!! When you reach your goals, those rude people will be wishing they were nicer. 😉